I have no problem paying £1111 for a course. In fact, I have no problem paying £3333 or £5555 for a course when I know it is with a teacher I am going to learn from and when I know it is going to enhance my life. In fact, over the last 12 years, I have invested multiple MULTIPLE five figures into my personal (and subsequent business) development.
I invest a LOT in my business and in my craft. I want to be the best teacher/guide/coach/healer I can be. I want to be the best version of myself I can be. And so I spend my money accordingly.
So when I qualified as a Yoga teacher/Coach/Meditation & Breathwork facilitator/ and got certified in a whole other range of modalities (Reiki/Angelic Guidance/Crystal Therapy) I thought it would easy to charge for my services.
But it was NOT easy to charge for my services. In fact, it has been a MASSIVE block for me and is something I work on over & over & over with my coach.
This morning I asked her, why do I find it so easy to spend £3333 on a course but I find it so hard to receive one tenth of that on a course I’ve written & created myself and poured my heart & soul into.
She helped me to realise that it is because I am just so used to GIVING. And it goes back generationally & ancestrally. You see, men don’t have the same trouble asking for money as women do (generally speaking) If a man knows he has done an excellent job & worked really hard, he will have no issue asking for a payrise or increasing his prices. Over here for women however, it’s a whole other situation!
And it’s because throughout time, we as women are the GIVERS. The givers of life, the givers of nurturing & love, the givers of time & energy. And we love it. AND it has become so deeply engrained in us that we ‘should’ give, that we don’t know how to receive.
Now, when I had my teaching career in the classroom, this was never an issue. I went to work and got paid at the end of every month. The same amount. It was stable, regular & safe. Fast forward to leaving that security and running my own business, all of a sudden I had to learn to charge for my services. Which was NOT easy for me. Even though I had invested THOUSANDS and thousands into my trainings & qualifications, I struggled to ask for money. I think this is something many female business owners deal with. We attach guilt to receiving. And this is wrong!
And it goes deeper. Because it is not just about the ancestral wounds of women receiving money & abundance, through lots of coaching and deep healing, I uncovered a lot of my personal subconscious beliefs.
And my deep rooted subconscious beliefs had formed a blueprint within me that determined my relationship with money.
Our beliefs are often rooted in our childhood. And as I child I witnessed & learned that money is linked to pain, struggling and suffering. I learned that with money comes distress and sadness. I learned that money is difficult & hard to come by and in order to have some, you must suffer. This went so deep that I even burst into tears this morning because one of Scott’s relatives gave us £10 in our engagement card this weekend.
Woah!
The TRUTH about money is very different. Money is neutral. And money F L O W S (money needs to flow!) And there is actually a LOT of money circulating in this world. Money does not have to be linked to pain & struggling, money can be linked to joy & happiness. You do not need to feel guilty for spending or receiving money!
Another truth is that people love to give and people love to pay for things that make them happy (and in fact I am my own teacher here because I love to pay for my coach, for courses that make me a better teacher, for crystals, for spa breaks etc etc..) It brings people absolute joy to give to others. Just like it makes me happy to give to my coach and support her business and how happy it makes me when I paid my VA to help me with my business earlier this year and how happy it will make me when I start to pay a cleaner (when we finally get one!) And yet, I held this belief that people would somehow be ‘sacrificing’ in order to pay me.
And so, during Covid, when for 12 entire months my WHOLE BUSINESS was donation based, I was actually more comfortable receiving than I was at any other time. Because I knew the people were only paying what they could afford to. But now I understand, this is exactly the same ALL THE TIME! People invest in things that matter to them, just like I do. And if the money isn’t directly available to them, they find it, just like I do (or they don’t if it isn’t that important) And if they want to do something badly enough, they find a way, just like I do.
Working on my money blueprint has been some of the deepest healing work I’ve done with my coach. I realise now that it is not wrong to charge for my services, in fact it is something to celebrate because what I have to offer is VALUABLE!! (it is the work of my life that will change your life!) I realise now that the more money I earn, the more I can help my family (who did sacrifice to help me when I was growing up) I realise the more money I earn, the more I can continue to invest in my own wellbeing (personally and professionally) I realise the more money I earn, the more I can show other women that is it a GOOD THING for more money to come into the hands of kind hearted people who will do good things with it.
My course should be £3333! However, I’m not quite ready to charge that much just yet (but wait and see 😉) For now, it is only £333 AND you’re getting a FREE TICKET to my next event included.
And if Glow is unavailable to you right now, I have made sure there are FREE classes & resources that ARE available to you on my website. I know what it feels like to have no money, I really really do and that is why I am committed in my business to serving people at every level. I will always do my best for you. For all of us x x
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