What is healing?
It's question I get asked a lot and whilst it may seem obvious in the physical sense of the word, I realise that it is not so obvious when it comes to healing all the other parts of us beyond our body.. (our minds & hearts & souls)
I‘m going to write about my perspective. If it resonates – great! If not, please do not worry – I believe we are all here to make our own meaning of life (and how healed we are forms a HUGE part of how we perceive things and see the world.)
Let’s start simply.. To heal means to get better, to improve your state, to recover from something. When we heal, we ‘repair damage’ – this is important. ‘Damage’ can take many forms.
On a physical level, say you fall and break your leg. Over time, you will heal. Your body will regenerate cells and your bone will fuse back together (most likely with the assistance of a cast) Say you catch chicken pox and are poorly for a little while. Over time, you will heal. Your body will regenerate and you will develop antibodies and recover. Say you cut your finger. Over time (usually very quickly) you will heal. Your body will regenerate cells and your skin will mesh together, sometimes leaving a little scar, sometimes not depending on the depth of the cut. The damage is repaired through healing.
So, physical healing is all pretty straight forward.
But what about healing the other parts?
What if it’s your heart that’s broken?
What if it's your mind that just can't switch off?
We know that we are not ‘just a body’ Our body is our home, it’s where we live. We also have a mental body (our thoughts & cognitive function) an energetic body (our vibrations, and what makes us sensitive to other people’s vibrations!) an emotional body (our feelings) and a soul (who we are at our centre, our very essence.)
What if there is damage to these other layers that needs healing?
I believe you can heal from anything. ANYTHING.
And because I’ve been a yogi for 12 years now (and have done a LOT of my own healing coupled with training in many modalities over the years..) I embody a deep understanding of how our layers work together and how we can bring them back into harmony. My life’s mission to help people heal.
And what I also believe is this… Most of the healing we need to do as adults is giving our younger self what we needed but didn’t get.. It’s repairing old ‘damage’
Hear me out…
A LOT of mental/emotional/even energetic pain/discomfort/damage comes from what happened to us as children. Now, you can have had the most idyllic childhood and still be carrying wounds that need healing.
Let me explain..
To be ‘wounded/damaged’ as a child does not mean that you need to have gone through some massive trauma.. Maybe you perceived your sibling got more attention than you (even if it actually wasn’t the case), maybe your mum said ‘no’ to you one time (or probably many!) maybe you got lost once and couldn’t find your parents in a supermarket, maybe you felt left out at school one time, maybe your friends forgot to invite you to something once, maybe someone made a comment about something you were wearing one day, maybe a teacher asked you a question in class and you got it wrong, maybe you had bad skin as a teenager (as most of us do!) maybe the first person you fancied didn’t fancy you back, maybe the first time you tried to skateboard/trampoline/pogo(!) you were rubbish, maybe maybe maybe… This list could go on forever and it ALL affects us as adults. ALL OF IT.
Now, maybe other stuff happened to you as a child, you moved house and had to make a new set of friends and found it massively difficult fitting into already established friendship groups. Maybe your parents got divorced. Maybe you were bullied. Maybe something worse. Everything you experienced as a child comes with you into adulthood. And everything from adulthood is always with you too (unless & until you choose to heal from it.)
I’ll give you an example from my own life. My parents divorced when I was I think 7 or 8 years old. I would spend the week with my Mum & Stepdad and the weekend with my Dad & Stepmum. I had 2 homes. Brilliant you might think but what carried over into adulthood with me was a sense of not actually knowing where I belonged. I remember going to Haven Holidays once with my Mum and P and meeting another little girl. She asked me where I was from and I genuinely didn’t know whether to say Wigan or Leigh. Sounds trivial yet the fact that I remember it so vividly means there is a wound there. I really felt like I didn’t know where my home town was. To this day I sometimes call Wigan my home town, and other days I say it’s Leigh. I guess it’s a kind of instability resulting in me having lived at 14 (14!!) addresses before I bought my house. And even now I’m starting to feel restless here, I crave security and feeling settled somewhere.
Consequently, as adults we are searching for what we needed as children.
And we usually search for what we need through external means. We seek safety, validation, acceptance, security, love. Of course we do! We think that the ‘partner/job/house/holiday etc etc’ will make us happy and ‘heal’ us but until we’ve done the inner work, problems may continue to show up in these areas of our lives. Of course, a dream partner or dream job will bring much fulfilment.. just imagine how much better it gets when you come to these aspects of your life with healed wounds.
Our childhood (and subsequent adulthood) wounds show up in every area of our lives.. In our relationships, in how we deal with money, in how we take care of ourselves, in how we eat, in how we work. In every area. I could give you very personal examples for all of these aspects of life and how I recognise I have been affected by things from my childhood but I will keep this blog to an acceptable length!
Healing more often than not involves addressing our childhood (and adulthood) wounds and giving the younger us (and us present us), what we need.
My work today centres around helping people heal.
Here are some (not all) examples of how I facilitate healing in my clients:
Acceptance
What most of us generally crave right from when we’re little is acceptance. I hold a safe space for people to come, bring all their ‘stuff’, let it out, work through it all the while knowing they can fully be who they are, no holds barred with absolute full acceptance from me (and eventually from themselves – this is beautiful to witness)
Attention
I am so proud of the way I hold space for people. In my experience, people just want to be seen & heard. People naturally & inherently need attention. And whilst the world can sometimes make us feel we aren’t worthy of attention (particularly our own) I give my clients my full, undivided attention so they feel respected, honoured & important.
Answers
As children we want to know the answers to everything. As adults we aren’t much different. Through healing work, we are guided & reminded that actually, all the answers we seek lie within us. In my client sessions I listen, I ask questions, I offer different perspectives, I reflect things back to people in different ways so they are guided back to their own inner knowing – their own inner wisdom and it’s simply magical. It’s the most rewarding part of healing work – the realisations, the epiphanies, the moments!
Through sessions together, we work on repairing the damage that’s present not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, energetically and soulfully too.
Once we have learned how to heal, magic begins to unfold throughout our lives..
I work with clients and help them heal from all kinds of things: heartbreak, divorce, chronic pain, stress, fatigue, money issues, grief & bereavement, relationship problems.. through a bespoke & individually tailored range of modalities including: Guidance Coaching, Channelled Meditations, Deep Relaxation (do not underestimate the power of this to recalibrate your nervous system and induce deep, healing
rest) Crystal Therapy, Reiki, Yoga.. It’s a journey, it’s a wild ride, it’s HEALING.
If you have any questions about healing or would like to work with me on your own journey to healing, please do get in touch – I’d love to help you if I can x x
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